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Adam

Two weeks agp our netfliks dvd was "Adam."  The main character is a twenty-eight year old aspie who is on his own for the first time.  (He does have his father's war buddy who understands hjm and walks him through predictable crises).   He meets a young school teacher and falls in love, loses his job, almost loses his home and finally "stims" his way into a decent job as a planetrarium guide where he begins to lead an independent life.  It was a very pleasant movie to watch (see exceptions below) with a very good representation of a high functioning autist.  Threatened with the loss of his home and discovering that his girl friend told him a (little white) lie, he threw a couple of horrendous tantrums that made me cringe and then shout at him to stop!

When I opined that I had never, would never, throw tantrums like that, Dianne looked at me like: "where were you during your life!"  and than reminded me of some of the tantrums I had thrown.  It was bpth painful and informative to watch.

The girl friend, who ends up sending him away so that he can try his own wings, gets a crash course in autism and learns a lot in a short period of time.  I also learned something watching the movie, and I think Dianne did too.  Three and a half stars.

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old_cutter_john
Feb. 21st, 2010 05:31 pm (UTC)
I saw it in a movie theater soon after it was released. I wouldn't call that a little white lie; I'd call it a major manipulation, and I couldn't continue in a relationship with a person who did that sort of thing to me. Though such manipulations are standard operating procedure among neurotypicals, I expect most autistics would find that sort of behavior totally unacceptable.
bobby1933
Feb. 21st, 2010 06:23 pm (UTC)
Wow! Yes, I think you are right.
skyrabbit
Feb. 22nd, 2010 09:04 am (UTC)
What was the lie she told?
bobby1933
Feb. 22nd, 2010 06:48 pm (UTC)
Ruth set up a meeting between Adam and her parents without telling him about it so that they would "accidentally" run into each other in a way that would show Adam off in a good light. As oldcutterjohn said, it was the kind of manipulation that many NTs pass off as trivial.
shira
Feb. 22nd, 2010 09:59 pm (UTC)
I recently saw Adam as well. I liked it for the most part, and thought it was a fairly accurate portrayal. I would relate myself currently to the Adam at the end of the movie as I think I have spent my entire 40 years learning how to cope, from childhood, but much of what was represented I have done/do/probably will do again; honestly, the movie made me really sad because it gave me an outside look of my life, sort-of. It made me cry, really, because I knew exactly how Adam felt in a lot of those scenes. I'm not really sure why I did, either; whether it was just sadness or a sort-of "OMG, someone else GETS IT" kind of thing. I have a friend whose AS traits are a lot more pronounced than mine - Adam really reminded me of him. Anyway, just thought I would pipe in here since I have been wondering what people on this comm thought of that movie (I've been away from LJ for a little while, so if it was discussed before, I missed it).
bobby1933
Feb. 23rd, 2010 12:40 am (UTC)
Yeah, I stay away from this community because it so large that it provides too much stimulation for me. So I can't say whether anyone has posted on this movie. It just recently came out in dvd; I can't remember when it first hit the theaters.
shira
Feb. 23rd, 2010 01:48 am (UTC)
I was away from LJ for other reasons. I actually love this community and read as many of the posts as possible. I don't always have something to respond with, but I think this place is great!
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