Compassion toward oneself was the topic of list night's discussion as we work through 12 Steps to a More Compassionate Life. It is the "third step" on our journey, and we all admitted that it is a difficult one. "I don't like saying good things about myself", said H, one of the best of us.. Three of us had taken an online "self compassion" test and no one scored "above average."
Bur the admonition to love my neighbor as myself has no point if i do not love myself. Karen Armstrong, at the beginning of the chapter tells the story of a Rabbi, the kindest, most gentle person she ever met. He was a Jewish child in Europe during the Holocaust and hearing daily all the despicable things that were said about Jews. He resolved, at age 7, to not fall into the trap of believing these things. He sat down and made a list of all the good things about himself he could think of. He attributed his survival in large part to that exercise.
*Colon cancer has been a particular scourge in our family. Our older daughter's first husband died from at, as did Dianne's mother.
Her one living sister recovered from it and now her younger and only brother has two large colon tumors and one even larger liver tumor. He will be going under the knife very soon and could use the prayers, good thoughts, and best wishes of all.