September 12th, 2012


Rules of ettiquette addressed to autists must be differen from rules of etiquette addressed to neurotypical people becaiuse autists lack bolth social grace and common sense.  Also, while our boundary issues may no more or less serious than those of other people, our boundaries are different, stronger, and more likely to shift.  Rules for social interaction addressed to autistic people look like they were written for five-year-olds, but, believe me, they are necessary.

I often comment on friend's posts when i maybe shouldn't and fail to comment when i maybe should.  When an entry is addressed to me i usually comment, if i can pick up on the fact that it was addressed to me.  But if someone comments on my entry, should i reply?

One of my friends whom i regard as a real gentleman ALWAYS replies to comments no matter how unremarkable or dismissable.  I tend, unconsciously, i think to go by word count.  Long comments get replies because more effort seems to have gone into formulating them.  Shorter comments get dismissed simply because they are short.  Sometimes i even forget the basic rules.
Questions deserve answers.  Thank yous deserve acknowledgements.  Pain deserves comfort, Joy deserves sharings.   Accomplishments deserve to be acknowledged.  These rules should not have to be spelled out for me, but they do.

I apologize to anyone who has received an inappropriate comment  from me.  I apologize to anyone who expected a reply but did not get one.  I never meant to be dismissive or unkind.

This Is Water: David Foster Wallace on Life | Brain Pickings

Thank you to jblindsight

"...If you’re automatically sure that you know what reality is, and you are operating on your default setting, then you, like me, probably won’t consider possibilities that aren’t annoying and miserable. But if you really learn how to pay attention, then you will know there are other options. It will actually be within your power to experience a crowded, hot, slow, consumer-hell type situation as not only meaningful, but sacred, on fire with the same force that made the stars: love, fellowship, the mystical oneness of all things deep down.  -- David Foster Wallace.

This Is Water: David Foster Wallace on Life | Brain Pickings