Do you believe that a higher power controls our fate or that we choose our own destinies?
Its not a question of either/or; a higher power does control our fate, and (within certain parameter) we also control our own and each others
fates. There is a "ground of being" which can be only imperfectly understood (and therefore is not controllable); there are also sets of cultural assumptions bound up in language and maintained by social structure which limit even our imaginations of what our destinies could be. The very best we can do is get some kind of intellectual, emotional, and spiritual handle on these forces so as to limit or channel the control they have over us.