Don't judge and you won't be judged.
For the standard you use will be the standard used against you." Q!
I am tempted to want to say that Jesus never said that last sentence But it is in Q1, the closest we can get to what Jesus might actually have said. I prefer in my meditation to focus on the first two sentences only.
Being merciful makes it easier to be non- judgmental.
Being non-judgmental makes it easier to be merciful.
We put more emphasis on mercy, and rarely mention the importance of being non-judgmental.
Eastern religions emphasize no judgment. In the case of Taoism, this is because nature deals in a non-judgmental way with all things. If you are on the Way you will probably be okay; if you deviate from the Way, disaster is more likely to strike. That's just the way things are.
The legalists thought that ordinary human beings must be taught virtue (te) before they can find the way (tao). Thus they called their book the Te Tao Ching and studied the last chapters first. Nevertheless, we are all called upon to go on the Way,Taoists Buddhists, Christians, and others, and becoming non-judgmental is a phase on that journey.
Chapter 58 of the Tao te Ching says:
Everything is relative.
What is considered proper today
my become improper.
may hide dishonesty and sinfulness.
No wonder so many people get confused.
The masters have sharp minds,
not sharp tongues.
They are austere,
but never judgmental.
They are straightforward.
but not provocative.
They are brilliant,
but not flashy. (Beatrice Tao)
In other words, preachers and politicians often live improper lives but scream about propriety.
The wise often live moral lives, but will not speak about morality.
Standards ought to guide my own behavior, not be used as a club to beat up my neighbor, nor as tweezers to pluck the speck from my brother's eye.
Just as there is an "uncertainty principle" in physics; so there is one in ethics and psychology; One cannot look at something objectively if one is making a judgment about it.
The long, beautiful poem by the sixth century Zen Buddhist/Taoist, Seng Ts'an, "The Mind of Absolute Trust" is all about judgmentalism. Near the beginning of the poem he says:
The great way isn't difficult
for those who are unattached to their preferences.
Let go of longing and aversion
and everything will be perfectly clear.
When you cling to a hairbreadth of distinction,
heaven and earth are set apart.
If you want to realize the truth,
don't be for or against.
The struggle between good and evil
is the primal disease of the mind..... (translated by Stephen Mitchell.)
The value judgments that i have tried to inflict upon others have done no one any good.
I had best be quiet.
When i open my mouth,
i put my foot in it.
From time to time i had recently stepped in excrement.
and i am instantly reminded of the reverse.
It is not what goes into the mouth that poisons a man,
but what comes out.