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You are Loyal, Generous, Humble and Tolerant

Loyalty:

You value loyalty a fair amount.
You're loyal to your friends... to a point.
But if they cross you, you will reconsider your loyalties.
Staying true to others is important to you, but you also stay true to yourself.

Honesty:

You don't really value honesty.
You do value getting your way, no matter what.
And if a little lying is required to do that, no problem.
A few white lies never hurt anyone (at least, that's what you tell yourself!)

Generosity:

You value generosity a fair amount.
You are all about giving, as long as there's some give and take.
Supportive and kind, you don't mind helping out a friend in need.
But you know when you've given too much. You have no problem saying "no"!

Humility:

You value humility a fair amount.
You tend to be an easy going, humble person.
But occasionally your ego takes over.
You have a slight competitive streak - and the need to be the best.

Tolerance:

You value tolerance highly.
Not only do you enjoy the company of those very different from you...
You do all that you can to seek it out interesting and unique friends.
You think there are many truths in life, and you're open to many of them.



This is one of the results from the quiz, The Five
You are Loyal, Generous, Humble and Tolerant


Apparently i am still more dishonest than i thought i was.  I have always known myself to be a liar. and i have spent at least the last 40 years trying to correct that.  I thought i had done a pretty good job;
evidently not.  Now i am trying to think of situations where i lied, fudged, delayed necessary truth telling, or remained silent when i should have spoken out.  It is hard for me to come up with specific instances.  Am i that protective of my ego??

Thanks to jenga21 for thiis kub

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liveonearth
Jan. 2nd, 2017 02:37 am (UTC)
I think people get wired with different levels of truthfulness----some people just don't see that it's important to say exactly what they mean, they just say whatever comes to mind and have no guilt about it, not even much awareness of it. It sounds like you may be one of these? But you seem so conscious in your word choices when you are writing. Are you more honest on LJ than you are in the rest of life? I am, I think, or I don't write anything.

Me, I'm one of those sticklers who gets really upset at people who are loose with the truth. I tend to say things very directly that set people back on their heels. Sometimes people think I'm arrogant, or project their judgements onto me about whatever I'm saying.

Anyway I'm intrigued about your tendency (ability?) to lie. I'm living with a man whose grasp of / attention to truth is less than I've ever been around and I'm coming to understand that he isn't lying, it just doesn't matter to him if his words are literally true.
bobby1933
Jan. 2nd, 2017 03:31 am (UTC)
I was taught to lie by a practiced liar who did not think she was lying. At age 27 i married Dianne who believed in truthfulness, who always told the truth, and did not like it when other people lied, especially me.

I finally thought i had come to be a pretty consistent truth teller. But one of the questions on the honesty quiz was whether i would a person who asked: "How do i look," the truth (that was on the second test, the one i posted about after this one) I did not answer it because neither option was acceptable to me. For the last forty years or more, i have tried to follow the 8-fold path's idea of "right speech" I try to say only what is Truthful, Helpful, Important, Necessary. and Kind. Lets say i think a woman looks ugly in a a dress ans she asks, "How do i look?" What is the truth? Whether one is beautiful or ugly depends of cultural standards which vary with time or space. How helpful would i be to answer? If i thought she could be embarrassed, i might suggest some change. How important is the "truth"? I don't know. How necessary is the 'truth' Again, i don't know.
How kind would it be to tell the 'truth." It would be unkind.

So i would never tell a person she looked ugly in a dress, no matter what i thought. What would i say? It would depend on the situation, but it would not be the so-called "truth."
liveonearth
Jan. 2nd, 2017 05:48 am (UTC)
OK, I get the way you think about it. I guess to me there's a distinction between an opinion or preference and the truth. How you think she looks is not "the truth", it's your opinion (subjective, culturally based, biased, etc). I don't think it's important to say out loud that your opinion of someone's appearance is negative. It might be possible to express your opinion in a potentially constructive way... I do think it's possible to be Truthful, Helpful, Important, Necessary, and Kind with your words most of the time. So much talk is completely frivolous, I find that just as troublesome as words that I know to be false.
liveonearth
Jan. 2nd, 2017 05:49 am (UTC)
I'm curious too about who the practiced liar was. Your mother?
bobby1933
Jan. 3rd, 2017 04:59 am (UTC)
Yes.
liveonearth
Jan. 3rd, 2017 06:32 am (UTC)
Ahhhhh. We are so moldable.
jenga21
Jan. 3rd, 2017 03:58 am (UTC)
No problem. Your blog is truly wonderful! Happy New Year!
bobby1933
Jan. 3rd, 2017 05:01 am (UTC)
:) ((blush))
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